Emotional Maturity – A few days ago, I had an unpleasant experience. but like all situations in life, he left me a precious lesson.
Some social networks can form groups where people meet if they have the same taste. In a group of those in favor of a film, the majority of those present mentioned the death of one of the most beloved characters.
I started reading the comments on this debate and I discovered that of a girl about 13 years old who wrote that she was very sad (the text reflected her feelings) because of several events in this movie.
In my years, I understand that during puberty we tend to suffer for things that do not make sense, and this event was exactly that. It seemed fair to me to give a “mature” opinion on the situation and offer some comfort. But in the middle of such a drama, I took mine not to “play the game” and feel sorry for his pain. The response was aggressive, but I was not surprised.
It’s not that I do not understand that someone can suffer from things like that; from my point of view, it makes no sense to feel pain for something like a movie I’ve never been sorry for myself or anyone, so if anyone one suffers, my answer is to open their eyes so they can see reality, find comfort and move on.
This attitude is not something I owe to my maturity. I must admit that it was some difficult events in my childhood and adolescence that motivated this attitude. I learned to give each event of life its importance and its place.
Emotional maturity, why?
Emotional maturity has nothing to do with age. I know people who, although adults, are not ripe in their emotions.
An emotionally mature person has learned – through life events – and has developed the ability to understand the pain of others (empathy) and theirs, to control themselves and to take responsibility for their actions.
Learning to mature emotionally is not an easy task; sometimes it is the deepest pain that leaves indelible marks in the life of the affected person; However, he always wins because the person has learned to overcome tragedies and put themselves in the shoes of others.
1 Become aware of your emotions and thoughts
By doing this, you are aware of your environment and can better adapt to it. This gives you more control over your emotions, you do not judge lightly and you become compassionate and able to accept your mistakes.
2 Learn from your mistakes
Life is full of difficulties, the art is to learn from the mistakes made by these problems. Learning from the failures of the past helps you to be stronger and more resilient.
3 Be assertive
It is the ability of the person to express their thoughts or feel something (even if they do not agree with others) without showing disrespect to anyone. The problem is that you take responsibility for what you say, but the way the recipient captures the message is beyond your control.
4. Active listening
We need to be attentive to the way people communicate not only verbally, but also learn to read it without words.
We can avoid a lot of pain when the person learns to free himself from objects, people, beliefs, memories and thoughts.
6 Do not stay stuck in the past
Think about this: “The past is a source of depression and future anxiety, so it is better to live in the present.” If you love your memories of the past, you just need to suffer needlessly; Plus, it stops you from enjoying the good things in your everyday life.
7 Do not complain
Complaining about what you do or what you paralyze and stagnate. It’s the same as feeling self-pity and nothing is more unproductive than that. When you take responsibility for your actions, you start acting and stop complaining.
It can be difficult to put these 7 points into practice, but as soon as you take the first step, life tends to be better. In this regard, you will find below 5 aspects that will help you to accept emotional maturity.
5 realities that a mature person emotionally learns to accept
1 The world is not what you want
The sooner you accept it, the less you will suffer. A person who understands that there are things that she can not control, that she can not push others to feel and think like them He is a person who does not suffer needlessly.
2 Happiness is a personal responsibility
Every decision that you take has consequences. that’s why it’s absurd to blame others for the bad things that happen to you. When you take responsibility for your actions and decisions, you tend to control yourself and you learn that happiness is your responsibility.
3 Know the power to change when needed
An adult person knows emotionally that to be happy, you have to change if necessary. Change helps you grow and learn new things, helps you get out of toxic situations and people, which means you have to reach your well-being.
It can be difficult to control your emotions. but when this is done, it gives you that sense of accomplishment because you are your own owner; because you do not allow others to influence you or hurt you.
Being happy does not force you to fall in love
This is a common belief, but to be happy, it is not necessary to live in a constant state of falling in love.
It’s not that you avoid falling in love, but whether you know that you have someone in your life or not, you can be happy. When the person matures emotionally in a couple, he does not depend on the other to be happy. Understand that love is about helping you grow and know the world, But being a married couple is not the only source of happiness.
Like everything that makes you stronger in life. Emotional maturity is something that is learned through a process of difficult growth. We become all, but it does not depend on age but on everyone’s willingness to be happy without leaving it in the hands of others.