The Proven Techniques to Boost Your Confidence (Part 2) – In addition to the golden rule of trust, the following techniques, implemented in various scientific studies, have proven effective in increasing your self-confidence when you need it most. This article will continue The Proven Techniques to Boost Your Confidence (Part 1)
Use a triumphant attitude
Dr. Amy Cuddy discovered that a powerful posture for two minutes increases testosterone levels and decreases those of cortisol, the stress hormone.
The result? You feel more confident and ready to take risks.
The explanation of Cuddy is that there is a two The road communication is between the mind and the body. If you are proud, your attitude reflects that. But if you are sad, you adopt a triumphal attitude, little by little, you will feel more secure.
Note: Powerful poses are those that expel your body like those athletes do when they win (arms raised, chest up and chin up).
It was later proven that its effectiveness was effective and that it depended on many variables, but I recommend that you check it yourself if you want to feel safer.
Reinterpret your fear
Did you know that in real fear and excitement are caused by the same substance?
Yes, it’s adrenaline, and although both emotions are psychologically different, your body reacts biologically to both in the same way.
This means that in theory, it would be possible to use it to feel excitement rather than fear.
In an experiment, Dr. divorced Alison Brooks different students into three groups. To generate fear, he ordered them to make an individual presentation while a jury evaluated them.
The first group did not give prior instructions, while the second and third groups repeated them: “I’m calm” and “I’m excited,” respectively.
As a result, students in the third group, those who tried to interpret their nerves as an enthusiasm instead of fear, did much better.
Make smaller decisions
In the same way that starting to act is the source of trust, decision-making is also a great reinforcement.
It is scientifically proven that making a decision, however small, activates your prefrontal cortex, reducing your worries and increasing your safety.
If you make regular decisions, you feel more control over your life. Starting with small daily decisions is enough, for example:
- Choose the movie you will see with your partner.
- Determine the restaurant where you will dine with your friends
Gradually, you will be able to make more difficult decisions, which are important to you, such as joining a choir if your partner thinks it is a waste of time.
Using the masking technique
Do you remember that you disguised yourself as a carnival and did not stop making jokes?
Why did you do this when you were introverted and reserved every day?
Because you played a role.
I call this phenomenon the masking technique and it is a very powerful psychological tool to gain self-confidence.
The masking technique helped Beyoncé overcome her fear of going on stage. He created Sasha Fierce, a sensual and charismatic alter ego, whom he interprets every time he has to act for thousands of followers.
This technique involves creating a different personality, a character with whom you can let your reality dare to do things you would not normally do. This protects you from failure because you stop living with as if you fail: your character has failed.
Treat yourself like a friend
What do you say if you fail?
You’re probably hard on yourself, right? I’m sure you have sometimes crossed your head with messages such as “You are a failure!” Or “you are useless!”
But what do you tell your friends if they fail?
Do you tell them they are useless? Or do you try to comfort and encourage them so that they do not become depressed?
What would happen if you started to treat yourself as a friend every time you fail?
This concept is based on a scientific method that revolutionizes the scientific community with impressive results. It is able to reduce uncertainty, anxiety, and stress and increase the number of optimistic thoughts.
This method is called self-pity.
Self-pity does not mean having pity on you, but treating you like you would treat a friend if you failed or something bad happened to you. It means supporting and forgiving you instead of criticizing you. Console yourself to try again instead of punishing yourself if you make a mistake.
It is essential to learn to trust yourself to get out of your comfort zone and live a fuller life.
The first step is to understand the golden rule of trust. Stop trying to gain confidence before taking up a challenge, because it’s impossible. You will not trust you until you have acted.
Remember the first actions and then the feelings of confidence. This is something you already do several times a day.
Then, several tools can give you an extra boost of confidence when you need it most, such as recalling your values, reinterpreting your fear as enthusiasm or maintaining a dominant position, but most importantly avoid changing your confidence into an objective in itself.
All this will free you to finally get the best of yourself.